Ever asked yourself, “What do women want from men?” If you’re confused about what women want in a man, you’re not alone. With so many differences between men and women it can be maddening unpredictable for a man to know what a woman really wants.
Of course these differences make relationships challenging, but also rewarding because both men and women have strengths and weaknesses so we’re able to complement each other well. Today I’ll shed some light on what women want from men in a relationship so you can improve your chances of getting what you want.
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Women Want Security
If you want to be seen as relationship material, then you have to show that you can offer her security. Ever since caveman days women have wanted good providers. A man had to be smart, resourceful, a hard worker, strong and sharing to ensure the survival of his clan.
These same qualities are still highly valued by women today because they mean security for her and her children. These days a good provider is a man with a good job and reliable income. A man who is protective and supportive of his partner and family.
A good education is also highly valued because it results in improved job prospects and opportunities. Also since most women want to have children she wants a healthy and strong man that can be depended upon to help her raise a family. More than anything else, women want security from a man.
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Women Want Emotional Bonding and Your Time
While women want a man with a secure job and his own interests, making time for her is right at the top of her want list. She wants to feel included in your life, which means doing things together and yeah, talking about stuff.
Women want a man who is willing to listen to her and with whom she can share her daily ups and downs. Communication and time is what makes her feel cherished and appreciated.
The number 1 complaint from women is, “We don’t spend enough quality time together.”
Men get frustrated with women because they like to take things slower than men. “Wanna Fuck?” would be a great opener for a women wanting to pick up a man, but it doesn’t go down well with women.
Women usually want and need emotional bonding before physical bonding. If you want to get into bed with a woman, you’re advised to make a big effort to connect with her emotionally through open and honest communication.
Women Want Masculine Men
This goes back to a woman’s need for security. Being masculine equates to being a strong and confident man, a good provider and a man to father her children. Women want a man who is not wishy-washy or tentative in his actions. Here are some synonyms for the word masculine: strong, resolute, decisive, virile. Here are some for the word feminine: sensitive, caring, emotional, tender.
A masculine man brings excitement to a women’s life. Do you playfully tease a woman, or are you always agreeing with her? Are you able to talk with her like you talk with your friends, or are you always smiling and doing her favors?
If you’re a self-described nice guy, you’re probably displaying the type of behavior women want in a friend, but not in a lover. This is not to say that women don’t appreciate sensitive and caring men. They do. But the “protector” factor is more important to them.
It’s better to come across as decisive, self-reliant, man of action rather than playing the sensitive card too strongly. The biggest mistake that typical “nice guys” make is not being man enough to be honest about their own feelings and desires. A masculine man is honest about his needs and desires and rather than repelling women, it turns them on.
Women Want Attractive Men
Yes, women want attractive men. The good news is that women put much less emphasis on looks than men do. Women find a wide range of men attractive from handsome to homely types. Most women value intelligence, personality, and security over looks and the range of what women find physically attractive is extensive.
Fortunately you don’t have to look like Brad Pitt, Usher or Orlando Bloom. Women are unable to avoid some level of attraction to a man who appears capable of fathering children and providing her with protection and security. There are also a lot of simple steps you can take to make yourself more attractive to women.
Confidence is attractive so pay attention to your body language and posture. Don’t slouch or look at the ground when you walk. Stand straight with your shoulders pulled back. Also avoid always having your hands in your pockets, or your arms folded across your chest because this suggests insecurity and a lack of self-esteem.
Style and good personal grooming are as important as good looks. When it comes to your wardrobe, don’t be sloppy. Are most of your clothes over two years old? Do they fit properly? Are the colors starting to fade? Do you consistently under-dress in order to feel comfortable?
If you look good, you feel good and women notice you, so invest in quality clothing that fits well. Next time you go shopping, take a female friend or family member with you or ask for advice from a female member of staff at a decent clothing store.
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Women Want to Be Appreciated and Respected
Just like men, women have insecurities and want to complimented with sincere praise. Women want to hear that you like how they look, how they smell, how they dress, how they make love, how they live their life, that they’re good at their job, a good cook, a good mother, a good person, etc.
The fact that you noticed and told her you noticed goes a long way towards pleasing a woman. Check out this post for tips on how to compliment a girl the right way. Women like to be courted and wooed. There is an old saying that goes, “Men pursue, women select.”
She likes that you want to date her. She likes that you want to kiss her goodnight. She also likes that you respect her boundaries and don’t go too fast too soon. This does not mean that women don’t want sex, they just worry about losing respect. Some women are looking for fun sex. Many more are looking to make love with someone they feel they can trust and with whom they have an emotional connection.
Do Women Really Want a Funny Man?
You’ve probably heard women say that humor is the most important characteristic they look for in a man. Countless surveys designed to reveal what women want have reached the same conclusion. But I’m not convinced. I suspect the studies and the women have it backwards. Women are not attracted to funny men, but they find men who they already deem attractive to be funny.
This joke rings true:
Dating: “Oh, you’re so funny! I just love a man with a great sense of humor.”
Relationship: “What the fuck is wrong with you?! Is everything a fucking joke to you?!”
When you are attracted to someone, you laugh more easily, even at foolish jokes. This creates the illusion that “I like him because he is funny,” when the reverse is really true: “I think he is funny because I like him.” When a woman is no longer attracted to a man, his jokes are more likely to irritate her than to make her laugh. Females and dating surveys have confused cause with effect.
While a great sense of humor is a wonderful asset to have, too often males focus on being funny around women, acting like clowns, telling jokes, and performing pranks, to make the woman they want laugh. Your energy is far better spent making a women feel attraction by being charming, rather than funny.
Women are Less Predictable Then Men
You don’t need me to tell you that when it comes to attraction, women are less predictable than men. Male attraction is pretty straightforward. Men tend to be visually based and focused on physical features. With a few exceptions, men always like a certain hip-to-waist ratio, always like youthful features, always like clear skin and healthy hair. The variance in male preferences is quite small.
In woman this variance can be quite large and it’s not as clear-cut as it is for men. Women can become attracted and aroused both physically and psychologically. Studies show that many women themselves are unaware when they are aroused or not. To make matters worse, many women don’t even know what they want themselves. But hey, you knew that already right?
This means that any article on what women want is subject to generalizations. With this in mind, make a habit of communicating openly with the woman in your life about her personal needs and desires. A woman will do a lot to please a man who she feels an emotional connection with and who knows how to give her what she wants. So the best way to get what you want from women is to make sure that her needs and desires are fulfilled.
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