Two questions I get a lot are, “How can I tell if a girl likes me?” and “What are the signs a girl is flirting with me?”
Firstly, and quite importantly, it’s always better to let a girl know that you’re interested in her first than to wait around for signs that she likes you.
Then again, you don’t want to waste time chasing after a girl only to find out weeks later that she’s not interested in you sexually. What a waste of time and energy, right? In this post I’ll share some giveaway signs to help you find out if she likes you or not.
Playing With Her Hair Expresses Interest
If a girl tosses or twirls her hair in your company, it’s probably a sign that she likes you. Ideally you want to see her do this more than once in a 30 second period to rule out the possibility of co-incidence. Hair play is a way of showing that she is grooming herself to look her very best for you and can involve:
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- Smoothing the hair down
- Tucking hair behind the ears to reveal more of her face
- Running her hair through her fingers in front of her shoulder
- Hair twirling while making eye contact
- Hair flipping and tossing
On dance floors it’s common to see a girl holding up her hair while dancing. This is usually a sign that she is open to being approached and is trying to lure guys in by exposing her feminine neck and drawing attention to her breasts.
Tactile Clues That Show a Women Likes You
When a girl seriously likes you, she’ll use a whole range of auto-erotic touches. You may notice that she starts to touch herself in one or more of the following ways, or she seems comfortable with you touching her:
- Stroking her neck: This move also gives her an instant breast lift and shows her armpit, from where she releases her pheromone attraction chemicals.
- Smoothing her hands over her neck and arms: This tease aims to make you jealous that it’s not your hands sliding over her.
- Preening: All that fluffing of hair, licking of lips and arranging of cleavage is to make her appear at her very best for you.
- Using her fingers: If she’s using her fingers to gently brush against her lips or cleavage or playing with a glass or straw while looking at you, it’s a clear sign she likes you.
- The leg twine: If she’s crossing and uncrossing her legs in front of you and gently stroking her thighs, she’s indicating her desire to be touched.
- She touches you unprovoked: If she finds a reason to touch you, like to remove some lint from your shirt (that probably wasn’t even there to begin with).
- Open to touching: If she is open to you touching her or invading her private space. Or when you touch her, she touches you back or leans into you.
- Playful punches: It’s a great sign if she hits you on the arm or shoulder and laughs when you tease her.
Body language enthusiasts agree about these subtle tactile clues of a woman’s interest, so be sure to use them to your advantage to tell if a girl likes you.
Her Eyes Will Tell You If She Likes You
You’ve heard that the eyes are the windows of the soul, and this is true when it comes to reading a person’s true desires. Studies show that our eyes dilate when we look at someone we’re attracted to. It is a universal human response that we cannot control. So by looking closely at a woman’s eyes you can gauge her interest and even tell if she is sexually aroused.
Of course this can be hard to notice, especially in a low light environment. If you do get close enough to notice that a woman’s pupils have expanded it’s almost a guaranteed sign she likes you and that you have a shot with her. But even if you can’t see her pupils, you can still recognize attraction if she keeps strong eye contact.
If she’s locked onto your gaze during conversation it means that she’s very interested in what you have to say. On the other hand wandering eyes can be a sign of unease or boredom and this subconsciously communicates that she’d rather be somewhere else. Most people break eye contact often, especially with people they’ve just met, so stong eye contact is a definite sign of interest.
Also, watch out for the eyebrow lift when you first meet. This nonverbal cue usually only lasts a split second, but you’ll notice it if you’re paying attention. The eyebrow lift is a sign of friendliness and an openness to being approached so use this to your advantage.
Another Glimpse Shows She’s Interested
If you haven’t talked to a woman yet, you can use this indicator to check if she’s interested in having you approach her. When she looks over at you, do not show that you are interested by smiling at her. Hold eye contact with her until she looks away. If you’re shy this might feel like an eternity, but it will usually only take a few seconds. Now if she looks back at you within 45 seconds, there is a very good chance that she is interested in you and would be open to you approaching her.
Of course if she holds eye contact with you and smiles, then she’s definitely into you. A precautionary tip here though… you have to act quickly when you notice these things. With women, timing is absolutely essential. If you don’t act on her cue, you may never have another opportunity to make your approach.
Leg Position Can Help You Gauge Interest
The position of her legs is very revealing, even if she is not wearing a short skirt. How a woman positions her legs is subconscious way of letting you know whether she likes you or not. For example, if her legs are pointed towards the door, she probably doesn’t feel that comfortable around you and is preparing to make an exit. However, if they are pointed towards you, chances are good that she likes you.
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If her legs are open slightly, it could be a subtle invitation. If her legs are crossed at the ankles she is hesitant, but probably available. If her legs are crossed at the knees but pointed in your direction, just be patient, keep the conversation going and she will probably open up to you eventually.
Signs a Girl Likes You During Conversation
Here are some signs of attraction to look out for while you’re talking to a woman. Even just a few of these signs coupled with body language clues should be all you need to know that a girl is romantically interested in you. So don’t wait too long trying to check all the boxes before asking for her number or escalating with her physically.
- She asks you questions like your name, where you’re from etc. and seems genuinely interested in you.
- She seems happy listening to you, even when you’re talking rubbish and she laughs at your jokes, even when they aren’t funny.
- She gives you extended answers to your questions.
- She uses your name in conversation.
- She seems comfortable with pauses in the conversation.
- She ignores her friends to stay and talk to you or she introduces you to her friends.
- She stands closer to you than normal.
- She looks at your mouth with a dreamy expression when you’re talking.
- She leans in and whispers something in your ear.
If She Approaches You, She Definitely Likes You
You should be the one taking the initiative and leading the interaction, so don’t ever sit around waiting for her to approach you. That said, if a women does approach you, even if it’s to ask the time, talk about the weather, ask for directions, or whatever, chances are she’s interested in talking to you. This should really go without saying, but a lot of guys are so oblivious that they even miss this obvious sign of interest.
If She Isolates Herself With You, Escalate
A girl who likes you will often actively help to put you in the easiest situation possible to make a move on her. Let’s say you’ve been hanging out with a girl for most of the night and suddenly she says, “It’s noisy in here, lets grab some fresh air outside.” This is a great example of her purposefully isolating herself and it typically means that she wants to be kissed.
As the man, you should be leading the interaction so don’t wait for this to happen, or even worse, for her to initiate the kiss. On the other hand if it does happen, it’s a big green light so don’t blow your opportunity!
Hopefully these tips will help you to become more aware of when girls are attracted to you so can overcome your sense of doubt and make the most of your opportunities with women.
Remember, many of these non-verbal cues are subconcious, meaning that women are hardly aware that they are doing these things. Of course this is a good thing because it means that it’s harder for them to conceal or fake their interest in you. As long as you know what signs to look out for you’ll be able to tell if she likes you. Then when you notice these clues you can ramp up your flirting, or go in for the kiss.
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