Confidence is irresistible to women because a confident man looks happier and more capable of handling responsibility and ensuring her security. So how can you become more confident with girls?
Confidence is nothing more than a belief in yourself and your abilities. Confidence is not all encompassing, instead it’s specific to different areas of your life.
For example, you can be confident at playing the guitar or speaking Spanish if you’ve taken the time to develop competence in these skills. In the same way, you can be confident at your job if you have the necessary experience and expertise to carry out your work. But confidence in the workplace doesn’t guarantee confidence with women.
What I’m getting at here is that confidence comes with competence. In order to be confident at something, you need to take the time to develop your skills in that specific activity.
First do the thing you’re scared of. Then you get the courage. — Matt Hussey
Confidence With Women is Like Surfing
To use surfing as an analogy, you won’t be confident paddling out in a 6 foot swell if you’ve never surfed before. However, with regular practice in smaller waves, you can build your skills and confidence level.
And even when you are skillful enough to take on the bigger waves, you’ll still get dumped and wipe out from time to time. But don’t let that put you off because at the end of the day, you’ll remember those gnarly waves that you rip to shreds, not the wipe outs.
It’s similar with women…
Just because a guy is confident around girls, that’s not to say that he’s confident in all areas of his life. It just means that he’s spent more time with women so he’s had more practice meeting, dating and attracting them.
The guys who enjoy the greatest success with women, are the guys who are prepared to risk the sting of rejection by putting themselves out there.
Remember that even the greatest pickup artists in the world had to start somewhere and they’ve all been rejected many hundreds of times. Even now that they’re great with women they still get rejected, but it’s a small price to pay for steamy relationships with hot, sexy and high-quality women.
The moral of the story…
Seduction is a skill that needs to be learned and confidence with girls is the natural outcome of risking rejection to meet, date and attract women. Remember that it’s your successes that count, not your failures.
You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take. — Wayne Gretzky
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3 Misconceptions About Confidence
Don’t let these 3 common misconceptions about confidence with girls keep you from the fulfilling relationships you deserve:
1) You need to be rich or good looking to be confident
Don’t fool yourself into thinking that confidence is about fame, money, power or good looks. Sure, these things are a bonus because they can make you feel good about yourself, but they are not strictly required, nor do they guarantee confidence.
We’ve all seen ugly guys with beautiful women and perhaps you even know good looking guys who lack confidence. It’s naive to think that when you finally get that promotion and raise, that your romantic life will magically fall into place. Postponing your pursuit of women until you’ve reached your goals is a bad idea because you could literally waste a lifetime doing it — many guys do.
It’s like any other area of your life, if you don’t practice, you get worse. The only way to improve your confidence with women is to get out there and approach and talk to more women.
Think about the success the average bartender enjoys with women. It’s not because he is high status or especially well paid, it’s simply because he’s comfortable in his environment and his work enables him to meet girls easily so he gets a lot of practice with them.
2) Confidence is something you’re either born with, or you’re not
And don’t make the mistake of believing that you’re either born with the “confidence gene” or you’re not. We were all born into this world believing we were the center of it and with the confidence to run around naked, without any insecurities about ourselves. We never let failure stop us from learning to crawl, walk, run, jump, climb and much more.
It’s only when we start worrying what other people think of us that we cripple ourselves with insecurity. We start judging ourselves based on other peoples’ reactions to us.
Don’t think of confidence as a personality trait that you either have or you don’t have, rather think of it as a “state” that we all have the ability to get into. We’ve all experienced confidence in an area of our lives so we know what it feels like.
The trick is to learn to evoke and maintain a confident state in ourselves. Using positive affirmations and listening to motivating music are two great ways to get into a positive state, otherwise known as “the zone.”
3) You have to adopt some fake persona to be confident with girls
Some guys think that you have to dress or behave a certain kind of way to attract women, but the fact is that women find different types of men attractive. To be confident with women, the most important thing is that you present yourself in a style that’s congruent with your personality and lifestyle.
Dress in a style that portrays your personality in the best light, whether it be business like, sophisticated, trendy, vintage, bohemian, sporty, edgy, rocker, punk, gothic or whatever else.
At the end of the day you want to be the kind of guy that would attract the type of girl you’re looking for, so you won’t do yourself any favors by imitating people who have different tastes and interests.
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cheesy pick up lines or having to fake it!
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Video Game Confidence is Like Girl Confidence
Confidence with girls is like playing a video game. When you first start playing a new game you lose lives quickly, because everything is new to you and you haven’t mastered the moves.
The more you play, the better you get because you’re able to predict what’s coming and apply the skills you’ve learnt. Think of yourself as Super Mario, and you can get your princess if you’ll just have the balls to get out there and play the game!
The only way to expand your comfort zone, is to live outside it — Charlie Valentino
I know it’s easier said than done, especially if you’re a natural introvert, but if you want to get better at any area of your life, you need to get out of your comfort zone. So when you’re next faced with the decision whether or not to approach an attractive girl, ask yourself which path is going to give you growth? Then remember what JFK said, “We do things, not because they’re easy, but because they’re hard.”
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