5 Huge Dating Mistakes Men Make With Women

Common Dating Mistakes

Avoid these dat­ing mis­takes men make

Have you ever had the magic just die in an inter­ac­tion with a woman?

You know, one moment it seems like she’s inter­ested, then sud­denly you are left won­der­ing what hap­pened. You try so hard to get her inter­est back, but it’s almost as if you crossed some magic line and you can’t cross back. Then she’s either not return­ing your calls or you get the, “I think I’d just like to be friends.”

Ahhh!! What hap­pened, and how can you stop it from hap­pen­ing? Well, before we get into prac­ti­cal strate­gies for keep­ing a woman’s atten­tion, let’s make sure you’re not mak­ing one of these clas­sic dat­ing mis­takes men make with women.

Dat­ing Mis­take 1: Try­ing to Impress a Woman

If you’re won­der­ing how try­ing to be inter­est­ing could pos­si­bly ruin your chances with a woman, then you’ve prob­a­bly been mak­ing this dat­ing mis­take. So, what’s the prob­lem with try­ing to be inter­est­ing? It’s usu­ally one of two things:

The first pos­si­bil­ity is that you are talk­ing about your­self more than you are lis­ten­ing to her, which is a major turnoff for any­one. A need to be heard and acknowl­edged is one of the pri­mary emo­tional needs for every human being.

Just think how frus­trat­ing it is when you are with some­one and they only talk about them­selves. If you really want to “impress” a woman, focus on being inter­ested in her instead of inter­est­ing to her.

Focus on being inter­ested in her instead of inter­est­ing to her.

Teach­ers often tell pupils they have two ears and only one mouth and they should use them in that pro­por­tion. This advice also applies to mak­ing con­ver­sa­tion. If you’re not lis­ten­ing to what the other per­son is say­ing, you won’t know how to respond or where to move the con­ver­sa­tion next.

By demon­strat­ing inter­est in the other per­son, you present your­self to them as an engag­ing, thought­ful, and more enjoy­able per­son to talk to. That makes you more inter­est­ing to them and makes them want to find out more about you.

The sec­ond pos­si­bil­ity is that you are try­ing to impress her with things like pos­ses­sions, income or accom­plish­ments. This is a com­mon mis­take men make with women. To a man these things might be impres­sive (and to some women too), but most qual­ity women are more inter­ested in rela­tion­ships, con­nec­tions and per­son­al­ity than they are in your wealth and possessions.

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Dat­ing Mis­take 2: Agree­ing With Every­thing She Says

Many guys think that a woman is look­ing for a man who agrees with her on every­thing and likes all the same things that she does. Do you avoid dis­agree­ing with a woman because of this, or do you try to find out how she feels about some­thing before you speak up? This is a very com­mon dat­ing mis­take guys make with girls.

If this sounds like you, I can bet you’ve had a lot of rela­tion­ships end after just a few dates. In addi­tion to a person’s need to be heard and under­stood, peo­ple need vari­ety and excite­ment in their lives.

If a woman finds that you are agree­ing with her on every­thing, she’s prob­a­bly going to get bored very fast. Not only that, after a while she is going to real­ize that you are count­ing on her to lead the inter­ac­tion, which is the last thing a woman wants from a man.

If you dis­agree with some­thing a woman says or if you have an inter­est that’s dif­fer­ent from hers, don’t be afraid to tell her.

This does not mean that you have to argue or pro­voke debate with her, that’s very unat­trac­tive for most women. But if you dis­agree with some­thing a woman says or if you have an inter­est that’s dif­fer­ent from hers, don’t be afraid to tell her. This will show her that you are an inde­pen­dent man who is capa­ble of mak­ing his own deci­sions, which is what most women want in a man.

Dat­ing Mis­take 3: Being Too Available 

Are you the kind of guy who picks up the phone every time that a woman calls no mat­ter how busy you are? Do you some­times agree to go out with her even when you have other things to do? If so, you’re mak­ing the fatal and com­mon dat­ing mis­take of being too avail­able to her.

Now don’t get me wrong on this, I’m not say­ing that you play juve­nile rela­tion­ship games like “hard to get.” But it’s impor­tant that you have your own life and that you don’t com­pletely rearrange it around a woman.

Think about it this way, are you will­ing to rearrange your entire life around her for the rest of your life? If not, you are only set­ting her up for dis­ap­point­ment on the day when you finally decide to start liv­ing your own life again. Not only that, being too avail­able to a woman low­ers your social value because it shows that you don’t have any­thing else in your life but her.

Being too avail­able to a woman low­ers your social value because it shows that you don’t have any­thing else in your life but her.

How could this pos­si­bly be a mis­take in a rela­tion­ship? It’s bad because it tells her that you are either one of two types of men. She’ll think that you’re either a loser with no life, or a code­pen­dent and obses­sive type who is going to smother her with need­i­ness. Not good, but unfor­tu­nately this is a very com­mon mis­take men make in relationships.

So if she calls while you are busy let her leave a voice mail, or pick up and ask her if you can call her back. And don’t make a habit of re-arranging your sched­ule just to fit her into it. This will let her know that you are a real per­son with a life and that you aren’t sim­ply look­ing to club her over the head and drag her into your pri­vate dungeon.

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Dat­ing Mis­take 4: Over­do­ing It On The First Dates

Okay guys, this is a really big deal. A really, REALLY big deal. Are you one of  those guys who goes all out on the first date with a nice din­ner at a fancy restau­rant and who spends a lot of money on her the first time you meet? Are you show­er­ing her with gifts and atten­tion before you’ve even been on the fourth date? If so, stop immediately!

Not only is it cost­ing you money, it’s also cost­ing you a whole lot of dis­ap­point­ment and heartache. Again, you might be won­der­ing how it can pos­si­bly be a dat­ing mis­take to go over­board for a woman you are really inter­ested in. So let’s just break this down log­i­cally for a moment.

First, if you are going all out on the first date, you need to ask your­self why you are spend­ing so much money on some­one you might never see again. Seri­ously, how many times have you kicked your­self for spend­ing $50 or more on the first date, only to find that there was not going to be a sec­ond one?

Also, over­do­ing it on the first date, or even the sec­ond or third, is another demon­stra­tion that you’re a man of low social value. Think about it, if you have to go out of your way to spend a lot of money to impress a woman, what does that say about your per­son­al­ity? Stop mak­ing this com­mon dat­ing mis­take and you’ll not only save money, but you’ll also be more attrac­tive to women.

If you have to go out of your way to spend a lot of money to impress a woman, what does that say about your personality?

Not only that, don’t you think that she is won­der­ing why a man would go to such lengths on a first date? Sure, if she’s really naive she might be say­ing: “Wow, how flat­ter­ing. He REALLY likes me!”

But any woman with half a brain knows it takes more than just a few dates to find out who some­one really is. So if you’re over­do­ing it on the first few dates, you’re either telling her that you’re not being sin­cere or that you aren’t inter­ested in her for who she really is.

Dat­ing Mis­take 5: Wait­ing For Her To Show Interest

Are you one of those guys who waits to see if a woman is inter­ested before you show inter­est in her? This is another very com­mon dat­ing mis­take guys make with girls. If you’re inter­ested in her just go for it and let her deal with how she feels about you. Believe me, she will let you know if you are clear about your intentions.

Most women are look­ing for a man who can lead the inter­ac­tion and who is will­ing to risk a lit­tle rejec­tion to go after what he wants.

The prob­lems arise when you over ana­lyze every lit­tle move she makes and hold your cards close to your chest until you find out that you have a win­ning hand. Again, most women are look­ing for a man who can lead the inter­ac­tion and who is will­ing to risk a lit­tle rejec­tion to go after what he wants.

If you’re attracted to a woman, don’t make the mis­take of wait­ing for her to show inter­est in you. You’re sim­ply telling her that you’re unsure of your­self or she may sim­ply assume that you’re not into her and become inter­ested in some­one else. Either way, you’ll mess up your chances with her by play­ing it cool.

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About Tyler Duncan

I'm not naturally good with women. Most of what I know I learned the hard way. I know how it feels to be too shy to approach, to get stuck in the "Friend Zone" and have girls flake on me. Check out this embarrassing post about How I Got My First Slap →

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