Are you tired of dates ending with a hug or a peck on the cheek, when what you really want is to get her back to your place and into your bed?
Sexual tension is key to turning a woman on and your job as the man to create and maintain that tension. Most guys don’t know how to sexually escalate, instead they get girls drunk and hope for the best.
If you’re tired of leaving your romantic life to chance and want consistent success with sexy women, then follow these sexual escalation tips to quickly turn a girl on.
Maintain a Sexual Undercurrent
Create a sexual undercurrent in your interactions with women as early as possible. Remember that sexual innuendo and foreplay is much more important to women than men, so the earlier you start being suggestive, the more sexual anticipation you’ll create and the more turned on she’ll be.
Both your words and actions should communicate that you’re a sexual creature. This way women know that if they choose to continue to interact with you, the interaction will lead in a sexual direction. Being clear about your intentions and desires not only saves you time and energy, it also makes you more sexually attractive to women.
Sex Up Boring Conversation
Do you talk about sex or make jokes of a sexual nature? If you never plant sexual thoughts in her mind, you can’t expect to make the relationship sexual. Inject sexual energy into conversation by talking openly about sex, or making comments charged with sexual innuendo.
Here are some examples:
- If you find yourself doing her a favor, tell her “So you’re using me already — next thing I know you’ll be trying to use me for other things as well.”
- If you find out that she is from Brazil, you can say to her, “Hmm… you know what they say about Brazilian women, don’t you?” Then let your smirk and solid eye contact suggest that you know Brazilian women have a large sexual appetite.
- If you’ve met with her a few times already, and she insists on paying the bill this time, you can throw in a role reversal line like: “Well okay then. But don’t think that paying will let you have your way with me later!”
- If she tells says you’re good at something with a comment like, “Wow, you’re good at that.” Look her squarely in the eyes and say, “I’m good at a lot of things” implying that you’re a stud in the bedroom.
- You could also provoke a sexual conversation by asking her if it’s true that women equate sexual prowess with a man’s ability on the dance floor, or whether blonde girls really do have more fun.
The point here is don’t be afraid to bring up the subject of sex. Talking openly about sex demonstrates that you’re comfortable with your sexuality and will help her to think of your relationship in a sexual way.
You can accomplish this without being offensive or crude. Remember that sex should not be the only subject of discussion. You still need to generate rapport and establish an emotional connection with strong body language and conversation skills.
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Don’t Support the Double Standard
A lot of guys don’t realize that society places a lot of pressure on women that prevents them from being overly sexual because they’re worried about being labelled a slut. On the other hand, if a man sleeps with a lot of women, he’s hailed as a stud.
If your date ever makes a comment about how slutty another girl looks or behaves, it’s a great opportunity for you to demonstrate that you don’t support the double standard.
Tell her that you admire so-called “sluts” for being sexually liberated despite the social pressure on women to suppress their sexuality. Your reaction will surprise her at first, but it will go a long way in helping her feel comfortable expressing her sexuality with you and letting you know when she’s feeling turned on.
Spend Time Together Alone
If you’re not already out on a date with her, you’ll need to isolate her in order to build sexual tension and turn her on without distraction. Remember that women love good sex as much as men do, but they’re very worried about appearing too easy, especially in front of their friends.
Help her to be more sexually liberated by leading her away from her friends, so the two of you can spend some quality time together. Take her somewhere quiet where the two of you can have a nice conversation without too much distraction. You could say something like, “Hey, it’s really loud here. Let’s go somewhere more comfortable to talk.”
Speak With a Sexy Voice
The sound of your voice is more important in turning a girl on, than what you actually say. If you talk in a high-pitched nasal whine, you’ll have a hard time attracting women.
Unfortunately nervousness often results in guys taking shallower breaths and talking faster than usual, which makes your voice sound sound higher pitched.
One simple solution to common vocal problems is to take a deep breathe from the diaphragm before speaking. This helps you to talk without running out of breath, gives you a chance to gather your thoughts, and to moderate your pitch and speed.
When you want to be more seductive you need to slow down, pause between words and maintain strong eye contact. Think James Bond and you should be fine, or for more helpful vocal tips, check out my post on How to Attract Women With Your Voice.
Okay, so we’ve covered the verbal side of escalation, so let’s take a look now at the physical side of things, otherwise known as kino escalation.
How to Turn a Girl On With Touch
Different amounts of touching are appropriate in different situations, but remember that the earlier you touch a woman the easier it’ll be to sexually escalate later on. Start with harmless touches and gauge her reaction before increasing the intimacy of your touches.
Even a simple hand shake when you first meet accompanied by a smile and strong eye contact can help to get the ball rolling and makes it easier to touch her later on.
Touch her lightly on the elbow or shoulder when you share a laugh, or when you have something interesting to tell her. As long as you don’t overdo it or break eye contact when you touch her, it’ll seem natural and will help to build intimacy.
If you can get her comfortable and laughing, she might even touch you back playfully, which is a green light for you to continue. These are harmless gestures, but when combined with good conversation they build attraction. Just be sure to gauge her reaction before increasing the frequency or intimacy of your touches.
Also remember that women love a man who can lead the interaction and make her feel safe and protected. So if you’re leaving a venue place your hand on the small of her back and guide her in the direction you want to go. Or if you’re outside and it’s cold, rub both her hands in yours, or fling your jacket around her and hold her close to you.
If she is obviously flirting with you and the attraction is clearly mutual, rub her thigh with your hand (if she is sitting next to you) or gently stroke her upper arm. Also if a girl is comfortable for you to put your hand on her waist without pulling away, then she will usually be comfortable with you going in for the kiss.
You can set yourself up for a kiss by looking her in the eyes, putting your hands around her waist and slowly pulling her towards you.
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Turn Her On With the Triangular Gaze
This technique helps to build sexual rapport and set the tone for a kiss through sub-communication and body language. Use triangular gazing after you have shared a particularly good laugh or a “moment” where you feel a strong connection with her.
Picture an upside down triangle. Imagine that her eyes are two corners of the triangle and her lips are the other corner. Look into her left eye for 3 seconds then look into her right eye for 3 seconds, before looking down at her mouth for a few seconds.
Do this for a minute or two and she’ll understand that you want to kiss her. It helps set the mood so she is not caught unaware. In the similar way, if you notice her looking at your mouth a lot, it’s probably a sign that she’s turned on and wants to be kissed.
If she asks you why you keep looking at her lips, just tell her the truth and lean in for the kiss.
Kiss Her Cheek Or Have Her Kiss Yours
Some guys have a hard time knowing when to go in for the kiss. A kiss on the cheek can be a great way to test a woman’s desire for you. The first time you do this make sure that it’s close to her mouth. When you’re close, see what her reaction is.
Thinking that you’re going to kiss her lips, does she move her head away to reject you or does she go in for a real kiss? If she moves away, just go straight in for second kiss making it obvious that you were going for the cheek.
This probably means that you’ll need to build more rapport with her before trying again. On the other hand, if she seems to enjoy the kiss on the cheek or moves her mouth towards yours, it shows that she is definitely turned on and ready to take things further.
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Another technique you could try is to point to your own cheek, essentially asking for a kiss from her. Asking for a kiss on the cheek can be playful and is generally fairly low-investment from her. So she’ll be more likely to kiss you and if she doesn’t want to, she’ll be less likely to be offended.
If she does kiss you, you can gauge by her kiss, how best to proceed. If it’s a friendly kiss and she leaves her face close to you, or if it’s a more than friendly kiss, then it’s obviously a good sign that she is open to be kissed.
Women enjoy sex as much as men do and it’s your job to make her feel comfortable expressing her sexuality with you. Remember that women are actually turned on by being desired, so don’t be shy about communicating your sexual interest early on.
Learn to read telltale signs that a girl is attracted to you and act on them without hesitation. Some indicators include prolonged gazes, returned touches, close physical proximity and her asking personal questions and giving extended answers.
Drop sexual hints and spice up conversation with sexual innuendo and playful teasing. You can even be very direct with her at times and then just gauge her response and act on her feedback.
The more you sexually escalate while out with a girl, the more turned on she’ll be by the end of the night and the more comfortable she’ll be with the idea of coming back to your place when you say, “Grab your jacket. Let’s get out of here!”
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