You might be surprised to discover that I wasn’t a born natural with the ladies. Much of what I know today about women and relationships, I learned the hard way!
To give you an insight into just how clueless I used to be with girls, here’s an embarrassing story about how I got my first slap. It happened in my early teens, and set the stage for some of the challenges I’d face later on in my dating life.
I was at a birthday party with friends and I fancied one of the girls there, but didn’t have the guts to approach her. Unsure how to get her attention, I devised what I thought to be a cunning plan.
I convinced a friend to go over to her and make a big deal about how my father was an outstanding athlete and encourage her to come over and ask me about my dad’s impressive sporting achievements.
Yeah, That’s How Lame I Was Back Then!
So anyway, my buddy heads over and starts telling her tall tales about my father. Sure enough, a few minutes later she walks over to me and asks me if my dad really won the recent city marathon.
At that point, I acted offended and emotionally hurt. When she asked me what was wrong I told her that my father is not an athlete at all. Not only that, I went on to tell her that my father had lost both his legs after a serious car accident!
Of course, none of this was true. My father was neither an exceptional athlete, nor had he lost any limbs in a gory accident. But man, you should have seen the look on her face!
She was mortified and had tears welling up in her eyes. She hugged me and told me repeatedly how incredibly sorry she was, assuring me that she had no idea that my dad was in a wheelchair.
I Relished the Attention, But It Didn’t Last…
She suddenly stormed over to my buddy and gave him a tight slap across the face while shouting verbal abuse at him. In his defense, he explained that it was just a joke, and it was all my idea.
I had no choice but to come clean about it. This rightfully earned me an even harder slap than the one he’d received and the reputation for being “creepy”. As you might have guessed, we never hit it off after that.
Not only did I screw up my chances with her, but all her friends caught wind of what had happened and let’s just say that my little stunt didn’t do my popularity any favors. Man was I relieved when we finally left that party!
What Was I Thinking?
Even today I’m not entirely sure what I was thinking, but I certainly learned a lesson about how NOT to attract girls. Playing the sympathy card is not big and it’s not clever, and it sure ain’t going to get you laid.
Granted, most guys know this stuff intuitively and don’t need to find out the hard way. Lucky for them, but I wasn’t like most guys. I was an inexperienced teenager and a world away from being a Casanova or Don Juan.
Truth be told, over the years I’ve had my fair share of awkward moments and embarrassing situations with women. I’ve made just about all the classic, ass-kissing dating mistakes that communicate loserdom, desperation and neediness.
Fortunately I’ve learned from my mistakes, and while nobody’s perfect, I’m a whole lot more confident and relaxed with beautiful girls. While some memories of my awkward and anxious days still make me cringe, I can talk openly about this stuff now. I can even look back with a smile because I’m not the shy and insecure guy who I used to be.
Of course, I didn’t become confident at attracting women overnight. It was the result of a consistent effort to improve myself and a willingness to step out of my comfort zone. It’s not easy to be the masculine man that women really want, but then nothing in life that’s worth achieving ever is.
Are You Making Any of These Mistakes?
I used to be shy and afraid of rejection, so I’d wait for signs that a girl liked me before making a move. I didn’t realize how much women respect a man who is upfront about his desires and how insignificant rejection is in the overall scheme of things.
I used to bore women with predictable conversation. In my attempt to avoid confrontation, I was too agreeable and kept contradictory opinions to myself. I didn’t realize how much women love being challenged and it took me a long time to discover how to generate attraction with playful teasing.
I used to suffer from “nice guy syndrome”, falsely believing that if I put in enough friendship tokens, girls would magically become attracted to me. I was slow to grasp that being polarizing actually helps to attract women because it demonstrates confidence and charisma.
Sometimes I want to kick myself for all the opportunities I wasted waiting for that perfect moment, which never seemed to arrive. The longer I waited to approach or go in for the kiss, the more nervous I’d get, so it did nothing but ruin my chances.
And my biggest regret is that I allowed myself to be taken advantage of by beautiful girls. In my attempts to win their affection I’d make myself too available, change my plans to accommodate theirs, and go out of my way to do favors, which did nothing but communicate that I was a needy loser with no life of my own.
But It’s Not Entirely Our Fault
These are just a few examples of the rookie mistakes I used to make with girls. Perhaps you’ve made similar mistakes? If you have, it’s nothing to be ashamed about. In fact, it’s not entirely our fault. Society seems to think that dating is a natural process that we should get right without guidance.
The truth is that dating behaviors are complex social skills that must be learned. Dating requires learning social rules, reading subtle body language, and experiencing some rejection. If that weren’t enough, there is heaps of competition when it comes to attracting the most beautiful girls.
To make matters worse, men and women are wired differently. Not only are women more verbally and emotionally expressive, they are also more in tune with non-verbal communication than men. So being nervous or insecure can blow your chances with a girl even before you utter a single word.
What’s more, guys are usually expected to lead the interaction in everything from the initial approach, to the first kiss, and the act of sex itself. With this much pressure, it’s no wonder it’s so hard to be cool, calm and confident around attractive women.
The good news is that even if you’re a shy guy, with the right attitude and the right information, you can drastically improve your success rate with women. I’m not going to pretend that it’s going to be easy, but you can bet it’ll be worth the effort.
You Can Attract Fun and Sexy Women
Do you sometimes feel anxious and awkward around beautiful women? Are you tired of landing in the “Friend Zone” or having women flake on you? Do you want proven strategies to spark attraction and get intimate with beautiful women — fast?
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Any man can make mistakes, but only an idiot persists in his error. — Marcus Tullius Cicero
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